The value of therapy
Some people may have such a troubled relationship with their sexuality that they drift towards a divorce or not dare or want to go into a relationship.
Sexual problems are frequently the cause of a relationship that is not working or fading away. It is very important to talk confidentially with a professional, either together or separately.
Often, very concrete yet simple advice can give a rather positive twist towards sexual issues and provide better mastery over the situations. sometimes, it may need more thorough conversations to uncover, unlearn and relearn new sexual attitudes and behavior.
To achieve the best possible relationship with your own sexuality, it is an unconditional advantage to know your own (Sexual) arousal pattern and love pattern. Through conversations and your own observations, we want to make you aware of this pattern and use it to your and your partner’s best interest.
Sexuality is also about communication, feelings, attitudes, arousal, excitement, ability to give and receive caress, intimacy, physical and mental concentration on your own and your partner’s pleasure, release and relaxation. To get the best sexuality, all these factors often work in a complex interplay between partners.
If one of the factors is missing or is performed incorrectly in relation to your own or your partner’s firing pattern, the lust will be absent. Then it is important to find out what the trigger is and try to bridge the gap between partners.
For us, talking about sexuality is as natural as talking about the weather, recipes, and new credit facilities. Our hope is that we not only can jointly solve a problem, but also you get an equally developed language when communicating about sexuality with your partner about all areas of life.
We also find that men often need to talk confidentially about their sexuality. Not all men have someone they can discuss their sexuality with.
If it turns out that the problems reside outside our area of expertise, we help you by referring you to another professional who is appropriately skilled.
Therapy
Some possible benefits with therapy:
You grasp the difficult thoughts, feelings and problems before things worsen, or you start a process to “clean up” the already difficult situation.You get help to sort out your thoughts and feelings through a neutral professional who never judges you. You get a new perspective and new ways of looking at things. You develop as a person and learn more about yourself . You get a “breathing space” in everyday life and time to reflect on things that really matter to you. I offer individualized treatment based on experience and research on effective therapy.
To seek assistance from others can be seen as a big step to help yourself.
There is a feeling of great respect by taking responsibility for your own situation and I will do my very best to accommodate you no matter what the problems are. My experience is that most people with problems and deadlocked situations in private life and with partners may experience a significant improvement in quality of life within a few hours, weeks or months depending on complexities of individual case. Of course, it is a prerequisite that you are motivated to work with the challenges you have. That you prioritize therapy course high. It is also important that you have realistic expectations and that therapy requires a commitment from you through active conversation over time, by giving therapy process “a chance” that you follow up goals and you gradually dare to challenge yourself.
Treatment Process and what to expect:
First hour: Before the first hour it’s fine if you think a little through what you want to talk about. To ensure effective communication it is very important that both parties are active. But you will find that I will listen more, ask more questions and request clarifications on the way. The objective is two-fold: 1) to understand what things you want to work with and 2) be better known. Depending on what you want to work with, we also jointly set up things you can work on for the next hour.
Further proceeding:
I recommend weekly consultation the first mounth, and then calls every 14 days, as required.
Examples of the type of problems and issues
I’m working on:
- Low libido (lust problem)
- Functionsproblem related to seksuality.
- Early ejalaculation
- Impotence
- Relationship issues
- Infidelity
- Severe exhaustion (Have a great negative impact on sexual desire and activity )
- Dependence
- Hypersexuality
- Nnymphomania, (workaholism can affect your sexual life)
- Stress
- Life crises
- Sorrow and sadness ( lost your partner and struggle to get back to normal and finding a new partner)
- High sensitivity
- Existential questions setting limits to be self-critical
- difficult phases of life
- Family conflicts
- Difficult choices
- Challenges related to childrens’ personality disorders,
- Obsessions,
- Depression
- Anxiety related to sexuality performance
- Anxiety related to sexuality
- Hormonal Imbalance
- Pelvic floor issues.
- Identity crisis related to sexuality
- Transgender
- Rape
- Molestation
I also offer advise and consultancy for issues and challenges faced in work place with respect to sexuality related to dealing with colleagues and managers. Also the organisations can approach me and seek advise on the various sexual realated issues and challenges.
Common factors influencing the sexuality include problems due to grief , personal issues relating to the termination, restructuring and downsizing fear . Some problems have tangled threads right from childhood and adolescence. Other problems have their root in recent times. All of these need to to be considered carefully.
Most human problems build up over time. And many of these problems touch areas that may be difficult to talk about, think about and relate to. It is obvious that there is no “shortcut” to solve problems and it needs a lot of work and also adaptation is often necessary. In some cases, it could be that such problems can actually be solved quickly if these are made visible and defined for you in a clear manner and that you get a “push” in the right direction or that you redefine your own situation as less problematic.
Couple Therapy
Some possible benefits
Counseling helps couples get ahead in a demanding or entrenched crisis .You can improve communication in the relationship between you .You can better understand and strengthen each other’s individual needs and values You may experience a vitality and new “spark” in relationship. You become better acquainted with each other and help prevent and prepare to cope with demanding periods arising.
Do you want to work with the relationship after a tough course of disease?
Do you want to break the relationship because it is too tough?
Do you experience a crisis in the relationship that can be solved by opening up to the issues that have created the crisis?
You want to be greeted as a unique human being by your partner .You can take up sexual issues that are difficult to record.
Good communication in family life is the dream of many. A good family life and the safe good conversation often provide a wonderful contribution to life and love. How to get it? What happens when the crush has surrendered?
How to get to love both “Gold & granite”?
Our clients report that therapy gave them a better life together. For some, therapy was important because they knew what they wanted and needed help to sort their thoughts, events and feelings. Others tell us that therapy was their investment for their improved future relationship. They got better with both themselves and each other.
We offer treatment based on experience and research on effective therapy. There may be many reasons why you would like to talk with a neutral third party like me. You may be experiencing a crisis in the relationship, and it is crucial to get rapid clarification free from judgement and pre-occupation and that you need a neutral third party as soon as possible. There may also be direct problems with communication, that you have grown apart, that one or both parties have negative feelings for the other, or that you have a desire to improve the relationship with the children / family. Another reason may be that you want to work on prevention. Prepare before cohabitation / marriage before having children, or in connection with a difficult situation that has arisen.
Are you coming as a couple or individual?
Our approach is to work with you both as a couple and as individuals. We recommend that both parties have an individual start-up call before you meet jointly in counselling. The purpose of such conversation is to sort out thoughts, work with objectives and to assess whether further counselling is something you as an individual is motivated to move forward with.
There is an assumption that both of you are willing to prioritize the challenges you have and that you are willing to take individual responsibility for improving cohabitation. Although it can be seen that it is one party that has the “problem”, there are always two sides to a relationship.
It is therefore essential that both of you are willing to work on yourselves in the relationship. It is also important that you accept and experience me as a natural third party and feel confident that I do not favor or build an alliance with either of you.
Family therapy
Family therapy is a form of treatment, by which a therapist works with a family rather than with individuals, or non-related groups. The purpose is usually to get the family as a social unit to work on changing things from the way it worked or did not work before.
Counseling
Counseling for sexual issues
Counseling is meant for treating everyday problems through effective communication and understanding for issues related to sexuality. Counseling involves individuals who are only seeking to remove the problems in their lives with the help of a professional. Consultation focuses on a person’s pattern of thinking ,thought process and how they can improve their situations in life. Counseling can be done via telephone / Skype. Many of our clients are located throughout the country and abroad. Hence, no matter where you are located , We are always reachable.
Mentoring
Mentoring is particularly suitable for couples where sex has become routine and boring, or where sex has stopped or in a period with almost no sex. Many couples are intermittently exposed to the sexual life and that lust for one or both is on the back burner. Such periods often occur only after a few years when the crush is no longer just dropping, after giving birth, after extra hard workload or after the children have moved out. Experience shows that the earlier one gets help for turning the negative pattern into positive development of all aspects of the relationship, the greater the chance for success. It may, therefore, be a good investment to get help,advise and mentoring from a sexologist to achieve renewal of regular sexual practices. This is done by analyzing sexual potential of both the partners and achieve a good climate for communication about sexual desires. During a total of five hours conversation ,we will go through both of your sexual preferences, and propose suitable sexual practices for both.
Coaching
Coaching
Coaching is guidance, motivation, learning and training of people, where you learn to make conscious choices and undergo professional and personal development. Coaching is about supporting and helping people move towards what they really want in life. Coaching is to support people in exploring and developing more opportunities. Coaching does not solve problems alone, but helps you find new solutions through good conversation routines and communication. Such routines, or habits, are often linked to your own opinions. Coaching is therefore to support you in the change process needed to achieve goals or learning goals.
We will help you by being a good conversation partner where you can further develop your inner-driving forces and thus get the results you want. I use different conversation and questionnaire techniques so that you get the perspective you need to find meaningful answers.
Coaching before dating and new partner
Ignorance is bliss before one hits the ground. It is very essential to be pro-active than to be reactive. Hence, it is worth looking into self and your own desires before you look for a new partner and continuing this process of self discovery even after you have settled with your new life. Take a reflection round with a professional as many people choose the wrong partner. I ask reflective questions based on your personality and necessities and your new partner. Several of us make this reflection too late. We often have no friends and family around us who can frame reflective questions. Especially friends are careful to ask critical questions about your new partner.
Most relationships are rosy at first. Eventually when the picture has faded the base value to you and your partner are far greater than you saw in the beginning as everyday life is reportedly changing conditions by themselves. We must not forget the most important starting point when going out to find a new partner. Many people struggle to find out what they actually want in life and end up being with a wrong partner Many people do not understand the risk is very high for being with a wrong partner. They also overlook many important factors like children, families shared responsibilities and need (sexual and physical mental, emotional, social, economical etc).
One of our therapist, will help you prepare for dating a new partner and continuing a successful relationship. We go through many processes. It might be good to discuss this with a specialist.